Dear new support group member,
First of all, I want to take a moment to give you a virtual hug.
I want to tell you that I am so sorry you know firsthand the pain of infertility and loss. I hate that life has thrown you this curve ball and that your path to parenthood hasn’t been easy. It just isn’t fair.
Maybe it was hard for you to reach out, to make the decision to search for a local infertility support group and then actually send off that first scary email. Maybe this is the first time that you have actually admitted that something is wrong and that you might not get pregnant as easily as you had hoped. Being brave enough to search for groups and to join one isn’t lost on me and I am so proud of you for realizing that you need a safe place to talk and find solace with others who just get it.
Or maybe you weren’t nervous at all.
But instead felt great relief when you realized that there was a group you could join full of men and women who are in similar situations to you and who would be able to support you in your journey. Maybe you were eager to join, ready to find solace in the fact that you aren’t alone, that others walk this journey too.
Whichever way you felt about joining us, I’m so glad you took that step. I’m glad that you are here and I hope that you find this to be a safe place to share your pains and hurts and frustrations. I hope that your heart heals a little bit while you are with us and that having others walk alongside you in your journey brings you some comfort. While I am glad you are here, I’m also a little sad that you are here. I’m sad that you are at this point and that infertility has brought us together. I wish we had met under different circumstances, happier circumstances. Life doesn’t always work that way though, so despite the reason, I am happy I met you.
I hope that your time with us is brief and that you move on to parenthood sooner rather than later.
I truly hope that you find success and that you have your own little one to cuddle and love on soon. Know that I will be here supporting you and cheering you on, every step of your journey. I will rejoice with you with every small success and celebrate with you on the safe arrival of your baby/child. I want you to graduate from this group, not because I don’t want you here, but because I want you to get that happy ending your heart so longs for. That is the ending I want for each new person who joins this group.
Know also that if your journey takes longer yet, I will be with you every step of that road too. I will cry with you after another failed cycle and I will swear with you when you are too angry to see straight. I will encourage you to do what is best for your heart and your situation and I will support you with whatever path you choose to follow. I will celebrate with you as you make progress and I will mourn with you when things don’t go as planned. If you are still here two years (or more) down the road, know that I am right there with you.
We are in this together and I will always have a listening ear for you.
I lead this group because I want to help someone like you, someone who is experiencing the excruciating pain of infertility and loss, to know that they are not alone. Being able to talk to others who can relate and don’t judge you for feeling the way that you do can be such a healing experience. I know firsthand that support along this bumpy road can be a lifesaver and so that is why this group exists. This group exists for me and this group exists for you, we are in this together.
Jenn, your Support Group Leader and The Canadian Housewife